Posted in Family Life

How Our Family Takes a Personal/Sick Day

Mom can never take a sick day, am I right? We don’t get to call in sick or take a personal day, but I will show you how you can get as close to that as possible while still keeping the ship afloat.

Sometimes you have a sick kid or kids, sometimes mom is sick, sometimes the night was rough, and sometimes there is more stress than usual and you need to give yourself some grace!

Today was one of those day and I could feel it. I called a family meeting and asked, “Should we declare today a Family Personal Day?” The answer was a unanimous,”YES!”

So here are the guidelines-

You still must READ something AFTER you complete your Bible Reading Chart.

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The sick littles ones are exempt and can just rest-

This I don’t have to tell them to do- but they should spend lots of time outside (for one so they don’t trash the place) and use their imagination. Here they are building a fort.

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Complete with a camp fire.

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Enjoy this break from school to do and explore all your interests. For some that is drawing and they get all the time in the day to do that.

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As for mom, this is time for mom to relax and read on the couch. Maybe read some Bible or other books to herself or out loud to the kids.

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This is time to catch up on laundry or other chores if she is not sick.

As for meals there are 2 ways to go with this-

  1. Since there is not the usual routine, mom has time to make meals that are more “all out” and take more time and preparation. This is a nice treat!
  2. If it’s a day mom does not feel well or stress, this might be a paper plate and easy meal day.
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This is everyones favorite salad right now!

Both are great in their own way!

For Family Personal Day, Nap Time/Quiet Time is a must.

If mom is not feeling well, this is time to take a nap with the little ones while the big kids engage in a quiet activity like Legos.

If mom is not sick, this could be time to catch up on what needs attention, which can be a number of things! lol

For me on personal days I like to use nap time to exercise a little longer, work on fermentation things in the kitchen, read/listen to a book or sermon, or work on one of my goal projects.

For the early afternoons I am a fan of outdoor time. Even a sick child could benefit from just laying on the grass outside or sitting on a chair, getting some fresh air. I love watching the kids ride their bikes.

Dinner Time is earlier on personal days. We will probably be done with dinner by the time Dad gets home. We go to bed early, and have a little more time for bed time stories and cuddles. By going to bed earlier we are more likely to have a better night and be in MUCH better spirits for the next day.

Usually after a family personal day, everybody is ready to go back into our normal routine.

Sometimes that one day can make a big difference in the school week, month or year.

We all need a personal day sometimes. Don’t feel guilty if every day does not go as planned and scheduled.

Mom if you feel like this verse-

Psalm 55:6 King James Version (KJV)

And I said, Oh that I had wings like a dove! for then would I fly away, and be at rest.

You can set up guidelines to rest at home, it’s OK.

It’s amazing even on a day like this at home, the kids are still learning. We watched a few youtube videos from this channel. read books, learned how to come up with stuff outside, worked on cooking skills, drawing skills etc.

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Let me know in the comments below how you take a family personal day!

Posted in Booktube, Family Life

My Goals For 2018 and Tips For You!

I’ve been listening to the audio book of Michael Hyatt- Your Best Year Ever. It has given me in great details, tools on how to better set goals and follow through.

Your Best Year Ever: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals

Here are 3 Tips to help you, before I share my own-

  1. There are 7 areas in everyone’s life that need harmony. If one is severely lacking, chances are you wont have ultimate success in others. Sometimes you need to take a break on goals in one area to fix a problem in another. Once that is accomplished, you can soar in the others. The 7 areas include, Health, Family, Business, Financial, Recreation, Spiritual. Setting goals in ALL of those areas, will ensure your best year ever!
  2. When thinking about your goals, to better achieve them think about what kind of time release you need on them. Is is frequency (Run 3 times a week for 15 minutes), or time sensitive (run a 10k before April 1st)?
  3. HERE is a PDF to get your started with some ideas in all the categories listed above. This is what I used to help form mine.

My Personal Goals for 2018

HEALTH-

Lose 15 lbs by June 16th (my 36th birthday) using Weight Watchers.

Exercise for 20 minutes every day alternating from cardio to strength training.

Go to bed no later than 10pm and wake up at 5am. Do computer work from 5am-7am NOT late at night.

Schedule appointments with Neurologist, Cardiologist, and OBGYN, by March 1st.

Floss every day.

Lead the kids in a fun workout once a week.

Carry a water bottle, keep it full and drink it frequently.

FAMILY-

Interview Kids every Birthday to Save Video

Ask each child to pick one dream for 2018 and work on it together.

Pick one child to cook with me all day.

Keep a notebook from the dollar tree for each kid and write in them once a month.  A letter from me to them beginning March 1st.

Schedule with Joe each month, a weekend to go out of town and do something more adventurous and outdoorsy beginning March 1st.

Turn down all the kids bed each night and read a bedtime story and pray with them.

Play 10 min a day at a minimum with the kids.

Pick a board game to play at least once a week on Friday nights.

Fill out a Gnome on the Roam adventure page once a month.

Downsize as we move to a smaller space and become more of a minimalist family.

Clean Van with Kids every Tuesday afternoon.

Do one special thing for every Birthday and Holiday.

Work on one skill from Keepers at Home, Contenders for the Faith once a month, starting in June.

MARRIAGE-

Pick out 1 book to read together each month and discuss at the end of the month.

Handwrite a note every Monday, for 52 weeks, beginning on March 1st.

Write a list of your spouse’s favorite qualities. Read it once daily, and pick one

to focus on for the day for 7 days.

Pray with your spouse. Set aside regular time each week beginning March 1st.

Create a prayer list together in advance and pray about those things together.

Plan our individual 24 hour getaways in town. Where each person can say overnight at a hotel alone to recharge. Plan by June 1st.

BUSINESS-

Launch new Patreon Page for Meek yet Chick by February 1st

Send a new proposal/business plan for Sponsored Posts, 1 per month.

Legally incorporate “Our House” and keep track of financial records.

Set up Meek yet Chic as Non-Profit.

Plan my 1st Women’s Even by April 1st.  (Free clothing, church materials and free coaching at Mesa Dobson Ranch Library) Hold this event 2x a year.

Write 5 pages a day for my book starting April 15th

Start Podcast with Joe on Blog Talk Radio by April 1st and record once a month.

Work on Email List once a week, every Tuesday Morning.

Read 5 business books each month.

 

FINANCIAL-

Reduce eating out to 1 meals each week.

Keep a certain amount in my personal bank account at all times.

Open a separate business account for business purposes By July 1st.

Re-evaluate Ebay goals. Sell things that don’t take a lot of storage space.

 

RECREATION-

Plan for a cruise vacation in 2018.

Have a family over for dinner once a month.

Organize a book club (even if it’s just for one book).

Take pictures every day and learn to improve.

Listen to one audio book every week.

Reach out to someone new at church.

SPIRITUAL-

Set aside 15 minutes in the morning, 7 days a week for reading and

praying starting as part of miracle morning routine.

Read the Bible 9 chapters a day.

Keep a daily prayer journal. Start Feb 1st.

Journal at least 15 minutes at the end of each day starting Feb 1st.


Let me know in the comments below how you set your goals!

Posted in Family Life

Today I LIVED!

Today was..logistically challenging. I can honestly say though, thanks to the books I have been reading, I was able to really manage it well. I will explain.

Sometimes when you make plans in theory they sound good, but what it looks like when it plays out for a family of 8, can be a different ballgame.

Today was the inspection of our house, as well as on the new house. The one on our house ran late so we had to divide and conquer.

Tensions were running high in the morning since we wanted the house to look as close to perfect as possible since we want the company buying our house to give us top dollar for it. This is why I know we could not survive selling a house the conventional way. Just trying to keep it perfect for someone to see it ONE TIME was stressful enough.  It’s true what they say cleaning a house with small children living there is like brushing your teeth while eating Oreos. No sooner had I moped the floor, than people walked in with their muddy shoes from cleaning up the backyard. No sooner had I cleaned up one area, then legos were dumped in another and so on.

The suggestion was made maybe I should leave with the kids to keep the house clean and I was more than happy to get away since I was feeling super emotional unlike my normal self. I wanted to run away and play at the park with the kids. I just didn’t know I wouldn’t return for oh about 10 hours!

Normally I would have played it out in my mind how I was the victim and life was unfair and how inconvenienced I was. I put aside my emotions and thought deep on why I was upset. I read in a book how most of the time our anger is not justified. Sometimes it IS righteous indignation. However often it’s either selfishness or unrealistic expectations..being a perfectionist. Bingo that’s me. I realized I had unrealistic expectations on the process. It’s easier to dismiss your frustrations when you know they are baseless.

Thanks to books like Wake Up, I felt really present with my kids at the park. I pushed swings, I went down slides, I played, I laughed, I took mental pictures of their faces and I sat on the grass under the warm sun. I felt so much better.

I then picked up lunch, pizza for the kids and my ultimate guilty pleasure Taco Bell for me. To be honest, it was gross, I’m done with Taco Hell, lol . I told my kids we were going to hit up all the places in our area we never went to. We ate lunch at another nearby park to our house. They played and I read a book. It was nice.

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The inspectors still had not arrived at our house. So then I took them to a library 10 min away we never had been to. It was actually really nice and I picked up a couple more books and the kids read and played in the kids area.

By then the crew arrived and it was apparent it was no place for a toddler to nap. There was a team of people looking at every nook and cranny. It was also getting close to inspection time at the other house, so I took all the kids to Chandler with me to meet up with the inspector.

I enjoyed the ride because I got to finish an audio book and the little ones napped. We arrived a little early so I treated myself to a Dunkin Iced Coffee that horray..is just a block from our future house.

I scouted out the closest park, the nearby shops (all my favorites) and then the closest library. It turns out the closest library 7 min away is the Dobson Ranch Mesa one where I held all my little classes.  There is also 2 other libraries in Chandler both 12 min away from the house. My kids were thrilled. I just wanted to pinch myself..I get to live here? Really? I focused on feelings of gratitude although the day was feeling long.

Finally when it was time to meet with the inspector he loved that I had 6 kids (he had 6 kids too and now 22 grandchildren) and insisted the whole gang come in. He was SO nice and encouraging. I spoke with him and his cousin who was assisting him (who also had 6 kids) and it really was such a great meeting. I would gladly recommend him to anybody.

As we wrapped up, Joe let me know he was on his way after they finally finished at our house. I killed some time at the local park until he told me he was 5 min away. Then we  met there and I showed him everything the inspector showed me.

We walked around and talked about how we would set up the rooms. We keep asking ourselves if we are nuts..we are paying  more for 500sq less space! We wanted bigger and instead got smaller. However the location is such a huge pro- he could come have lunch with us only 10 min away! Plus we would have a pool, which in Phoenix with lots of kids to keep busy all summer is so awesome. We talked about how maybe it’s a good shift, we would have to be in each others space more. We would have to be outside more.

Joe knew it was a very long day for me so offered to take us all out to a nice dinner. We picked the best sounding Italian place near us and it did NOT disappoint. The pizza was awesome, the stuffed muffins and my lasagna was just what I needed…ok maybe all those bread rolls was just what I needed. IMG_20180119_182150.jpg

I was exhausted but happy. Then we had to make the long trek back to Laveen. I went the back way and continued to listen to my new audio book by Michael Hyatt, “Your Best Year Ever.” I am positive 2018 will be my best year ever. Life is short and life is long but not in that order.

When you realize tomorrow is not promised, you set out to live every day to the max. It doesn’t mean you are jumping out of planes..just that you set out to live each day as an extraordinary day.

I could have easily used my old tired narrative of “Today was a BAD/HARD day” but I can honestly say instead I felt like I LIVED today.

I played with my kids. I fed my soul. I learned new things. I worked on myself. I met new people, talked, listened to their advice and enjoyed their stories. I created new memories, I put my little ones to bed, I talked about future plans with my husband, and I am now sharing my thoughts with you. To me that is living. I feel like a sponge soaking in as much as I can while squeezing myself out as much as I can and the cycle continues and it makes me feel alive.

And it was totally ok that at one point I cried while singing my favorite hymns out loud or that I let the stains linger on the floor while I read Ephesians on the couch under my favorite blanket.

But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her. Luke 10:42 KJV

In the end it ALL worked out.

Making a conscious effort to wake up from auto pilot is a great journey to be on!

Posted in Family Life

Our (Future) House Update

We are in the middle of closing on a house that we are really excited about. Since youtube is being very stingy with making any kind of financial gain for the little channels, I am going to focus more on my patreon page. I want to provide my supporters on there with exclusive content so I filmed a special house tour.

You can be a supporter for as little as $1 a month and receive access to all kinds of fun, exclusive videos and other perks. I will be doing a Q and A with Joe on there soon  too.