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I Made it!

It’s still sick week here. 2 kids overlapped with fevers. Last night I slept in between both of them and just prayed I wouldn’t get it.

Keeping me very sane is running on the treadmill during nap time for half an hour. I am alone in the garage with my phone and earphones and doing one of those preset weight loss work outs. Usually afterwards I feel like Jelly head to toe and beeline to the backyard.

I lay on the floor and stretch and feel the cool earth on my skin. I do some grounding, walking and twirling around (can’t wait to move to the next house where all these 2 story houses don’t look into my backyard!) but just laying on my back looking at the sky is my favorite.

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This immersion in gratitude lately really does incredible things for one’s mood and outlook. I really thought about today how I MADE IT and how grateful I was, thanks to God.

-I made it to adulthood! Trust me, I did some foolish things that could have easily prevented that. Worst yet, I cringe to think I could have died unsaved.  But I’m here..I’m an adult.

-I have the family I always dreamed about. When I was a little girl I had 10 imaginary sisters for a while. I wanted to be a part of a large family so badly…well I got the opportunity to create a large-ish sort of one..at least for today’s standards. I’m so happy about that.

-Most importantly, I made it to being born again. In a world where there is SO much confusion, I am grateful I made it through, saw all the human formed false works doctrine for what it was, and found the truth. This is enough to call it good and yet God still blesses us in this life with so many gifts and special people.

Even recently too-

-I made it through some personal darker times, I made it through stressful things, I’ve almost made it through this moving process :)!

We are constantly making it through big and small hurdles. Let’s take a moment of pause in this busy culture, to just appreciate THAT before the next one.

If we remember what we have made it through, we can remind ourselves that we can make it through anything..and that’s a pretty good feeling.

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. John 16.36

For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. 1 John 5:4

Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. Romans 8:37

Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world. 1 John 4.4

Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God? 1 John 5.5

To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne. Rev 3.21

If it’s not a regular practice, I challenge you to take some time each day to truly think about what you are grateful for and what you have overcome with God’s help. It will make the day look brighter and your smile bigger. This is the key to not sweating the small stuff I think.

Here is a sermon that ties in with this.

 

 

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Showing Yourself Friendly

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I am REALLY enjoying this book for the kids.

The Book of Virtues for Boys and Girls: A Treasury of Great Moral Stories

I read it aloud to them, they read it to me for the readathon challenge, and right now we are in the friendship focus part of it.

We have a number of discussions on the important of friends lately and why choosing them wisely is extremely important. We went over bible verses on the subject and using some real life examples they have already seen in their short lives, and in mine.

There are some tough lessons to learn if you want to be a good friend. This book mentioned those.

“Being a friend does not always require doing what your friend wants you to do. Rather, it requires doing what you believe is best for your friend.”

Some other key points:

-You must choose your friends wisely

-Your friends tell you a lot about yourself. They will tell you what kind of person you may turn out to be.

-If they have bad habits, there’s a good chance you’ll end up with those bad habits, too.

One of the last points struck me since it was also in my financial book I was reading…

If you can’t change your friends, then CHANGE your friends.

Interestingly enough, the message in most of my financial/business books surrounding friends is similar. If you have a dream it will be hard to realize it if you have negative people around you being naysayers.

This is also one reason why we moved to Arizona to start fresh. It can be hard to grow as a person when you have friends and family reminding you of your old ways and being critical of your new lifestyle choices, even though they seem nothing but positive in your eyes. If you can’t change your friends, change your friends.

So how do you make new friends?

When we were in school it was easy, we were in a room with 30 other peers every day. This is a flaw however, because the real world is just not set up that way. You will never be in a room with 30 people your exact same age and situation every day.  This is why you see postings on neighborhood fb groups asking how they can make friends. Unless you have a playgroup for a child, a church you are connected in..as an adult making friends can be challenging.

This is why the Bible says to have friends, you must first show yourself friendly. What are some practical ways to do that?

I will share with you a story that is so simple but I remember it so vividly. It forever changed the way I approached people and friendships.

Our family attended a church harvest party many year ago and ran into a friend from a different circle. Us wives were in a Bible study held at a mutual friend’s house. I had not met her husband nor had she met mine yet. I introduced her to Joe and then she called her husband over. I just will never forget how he greeted us. He shook our hand enthusiastically, made strong eye contact, smiled big and genuinely seemed so exited to meet us and made us feel as if we were the only other family in the auditorium. It didn’t surprise me later to find out this man was very successful in business and provided a great life for his family. It’s easy to see when he made everyone he crossed paths with feel like a VIP. We never saw him again but that brief exchange made an impression on me. I want to treat everybody I come across the same way.  I want to make more friends by being genuinely interested in them, than by getting them interested in me. This is a powerful lesson as simple as it sounds.

You will find when you are genuinely interested in people, you’ll discover that friendship does not just BRING happiness, it will IMPROVE YOUR happiness by making you a better person.

I have found:

-There is always something someone else can teach you and help you improve your life. That means ask questions and listen.

-Even when you feel you have nothing to offer someone (perhaps you had a draining or tough day) you can always smile and just ask how they are doing. Get out of your head and problems. Empathy and encouragement cost NOTHING and they are the best gifts you can give a person. Sometimes hearing about another friends burdens makes your problems seem trivial and put into perspective. Also if you are in a funk, hearing about great things in someone else life can be motivating, encouraging and lift up your mood.

-Invest in people, not things. I have heard my Pastor preach on this so many times and I know it is true. We all have time and control over how we use it. If there is leftover time and energy after investing in the people under my roof, I want to spend that time investing in other people. Why? Because I want to maximize my impact in my one short life. That one simple act of kindness from a person I mentioned above (that I don’t even remember his name) impacted me to be the person that I am today, can I do that for someone else? All it took was 3 minutes of time. Or how about the person (who I also don’t remember her name) that sent me free skirts when I first wanted to switch to skirts only. Her kindness has sparked me paying it forward in the same way, all it took for her was a padded flat mailer. We don’t know what small act of kindness can domino into, so never regret investing in people over things.

One of the quotes that motivates me and I truly live by is:

It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.

Harry S Truman

Growing up I saw my mother being a great friend. I remember her face over a cup of coffee, hanging on to every word her friends shared, and erupt with a laugh that was infectious. She would cry from laughing so hard. I like her smile as a newlywed on the left, and on the right with her friend that must be going on almost 30 years now.

We didn’t have much growing up in a one bedroom apartment, but she showed me you could have a great party or friend get together with nothing more than coffee and some crackers or sweet bread. It can make your head spin looking at party ideas on Pinterest. You really don’t need much to make people feel special, just an ear and maybe an intense laugh 🙂

As much as I really want to give my friendships my all, there is a delicate balance though. We probably all have come across toxic friends that only drain and pull down. After a while we have to realize if we can’t change our friends, we must change our friends for our own health’s sake. That is rare though, but it’s out there.

Being friendly is something I feel like I constantly need to work on and sharpen. This is something so simple that can make a BIG difference in our lives. Here is a great sermon on the subject.

 

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Posted in Homeschool Life, Real Talk, Toy Review

Robinson Curriculum and Tablets- The Struggle is REAL!

The Robinson Curriculum has a few rules, one of them being NO SCREEN TIME.

In this video I share my thoughts on it and how some Christmas gifts are making me consider bending that rule. Affiliate link below the video. Let me know in the comments below, what you do you think about kid tablets?

Fire HD 8 Kids Edition Tablet, 8″ HD Display, 32 GB, Blue Kid-Proof Case

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Posted in Ebay, Family Life, Real Talk, Thrift Flip

How to Buy Cheap (Nice) Christmas Gifts and Ship to Them For FREE!!

In this video I will should you how, step by step, to buy cheap (still nice) Christmas Gifts and Ship to Them For FREE!! There is still time to do this before Christmas, share with your friends.
Here are the two websites I talked about.

Elite Deals- https://elitedealclub.com/
Snagshout- http://snag.it/uDXwd

Thoughts on gifts- https://youtu.be/8bmkVFzb6_s

 

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Sunday Real Talk- Raising a Virtuous Daughter

This Sunday was filled with listening to a lot of great sermons. One in particular I would like to highlight that really hit me was Pastor Romero’s sermon, “Virtuous Daughters.” I recommend you listen to it, especially if you have daughters. I have 4 so it caught my attention.

I realize a small detail I have not kept in the front of my mind. I know my role is to be a help meet, a blessing to my husband and submit to him in everything.  Knowing this and living this is two different things. I have always realized and understood that when I was disobedient in this and being a foolish woman, that I was not only putting a strain in my relationship with my husband but also with myself and God. I knew that I could never be in good standing with God, until I apologized and made things right with my husband…which is a GREAT motivator to correct things quickly!

However, I always thought all the rules in the Bible were for MY own personal benefit. It is for my own good that I be a submissive and good helpmeet. No doubt about it when you are, life is good..and when you aren’t you might make the mistake I did in thinking you are only hurting yourself.

Enter this sermon, such a simple truth I am sure I have read myself in the Bible and heard other sermons..but on this particular day a light went off.

No, it’s not just for MY own good that I be a good helpmeet. It’s for my daughters as well. I am modeling for them what it is to be a wife and mother. The weight of that responsibility can be crushing at times on an imperfect woman, “please do as I say and not as I do” just never works out. We can’t do it on our own, but this is when we have to crucify the flesh daily and take up the cross. His commandments are not grievous to us and we have our own helper- the Holy Spirit!

Now I have the added weight that any fighting with my husband will not only put a wedge between me and him, AND between me and God, but ALSO hurt my daughters and their future and especially future marriages. If that’s not enough to make you wake up and smell the coffee, I don’t know what will. Now it’s not just about ME but MY GIRLS and I care more about them and their future, than a bad day for me.

I used to think this was a cultural thing. Hispanic couples being loud, latin women stereotypes, don’t make a latina woman mad, you know all that stuff. Maybe it IS in our DNA but not just in a Spanish woman kind of way, but in a Genesis 3:16 way! It is a temptation common to all wo-men.

I have 6 little pairs of eyes watching. They adore their father and think I’m the best mother ever. Please, don’t let me make the mistake thinking the consequences of being a contentious woman only apply to me.

 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. Psalm 119:105 KJV

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Are you a first generation Christian? Let me know in the comments below. Sometimes it can feel like being a Salmon swimming upstream and having to overcome a lot but..

 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Phil 4.13 KJV

For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith.

Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God? 1 John 5:4-5

Thank you for considering my thoughts. Sermon here-

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Bittersweet Moments 

One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth for ever. Ecclesiastes 1:4 KJV

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editedThis time in my life is so sweet. I get frustrated with myself when I let the day to day messes, fights, chores wear me down…but I am still in the flesh and get…..tired. All of it though can easily be forgotten and washed away with one hug, kiss and squeal from this little girl.

Tonight was the first night I did not nurse her to sleep.  She will be 2 in March,  I know it’s time. Although I expressed frustration over this little arrangement many times and how I couldn’t get as much done… I now am really, really sad.  

It’s always bittersweet to wean.  I don’t know if God will allow me to have another baby.  Will this be the last time? It’s too sad to think about.  

Mama’s enjoy it as challenging as it may be at times.  There will come a day when you miss it.  

Here is a great sermon on being a mother. 

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Real Talk- Sexual Harassment

This was a difficult video to make. I felt strongly that it was something I wanted to share about, even though I have never talked about this with anyone really (only briefly mentioned it one time to my husband). Ladies have you experienced something like this in your work enviroment? There is a better way!